parents don’t realize how much they fuck their kids self esteem up just with simple shit like not paying attention when they speak, or telling them to stop being goofy. like let your kid be them. everybody already gon give em a hard time, why they gotta get that from they parents?
biggest hetero lie i’ve been told: fighting is a part of a healthy romantic relationship
Disagreements are a part of every healthy relationship. Having bad days when you’re not your best self is a part of every healthy relationship. Fighting, disrespect, and insults? Those are not healthy at all.
NO OKAY THIS IS SO FUCKING TRUE. THIS BOILS MY GODDAMN BLOOD.
STORY TIME.
When I was 16 I had recently moved, and was attending a new school. About half-way through the school year, I started dating a guy I was friends with. He and I got on REALLY well. Like yeah we had disagreements and shit, but we always, ALWAYS talked about it and discussed our feelings and why things were making us upset. Every. Single. Time. We had a good system. And when we had disagreements we resolved them immediately. Otherwise we got along SO WELL. It was great I was really freaking happy and he was too!
About six months into my relationship, people, mostly my family members, commented about how WELL we got along…a l m o s t like it was a bad thing. I didn’t really think about it though, too involved in my own brain.
Skip ahead, to about a year-ish in. Friends of mine would sometimes get into fights with their significant others and they’d tell me ALL about it and I’m a good friend so I’d listen and try to give advice. Except I never had anything when they’d ask me, “Oh well what do you do when you and J get into fights??”
And I never had an answer other than “Well we don’t fight.”
And they never believed me. Or worse they’d insist that was UNHEALTHY. “Fighting is healthy, it lets out tension building up! You just need to sometimes!”
I never, EVER EVER felt comfortable with that, and I’d shrug it off and insist we didn’t NEED to fight. Our relationship was ALREADY healthy, especially because of the way we handled disagreements. People never listened and insisted there was something wrong, whether out-right stating it or hinting at it.
Even my best friend insisted that fighting was healthy, and I listened to her on nearly everything. Except for that. I didn’t budge for anyone.
DO NOT LET PEOPLE FOOL YOU. FIGHTING IS NOT HEALTHY. DISAGREEMENTS ARE. BAD DAYS ARE OKAY. LEGITIMATE SCREAMING AND GOD FORBID PHYSICAL VIOLENCE IS. NOT. OKAY!!!
Don’t be fooled guys, please.
Talking to one another through disagreements is the ONLY healthy way to handle disagreements in a relationship.
Verbal, physical and psychological violence is NEVER healthy.
yes that does indeed say happycow. so. there have been A TON of studies on cows and grooming. the general summary: cows really like to be clean; they’re MUCH happier that way. if you don’t provide them a brush or something like that, they’ll use walls or fences to scratch against, possibly hurting themselves in the process.
but more to the point grooming is a way they calm themselves down, too. similar studies have found that it’s the first thing they do after being freed when they’ve been restrained.
which leads to brushes like the one above, or ones like this (one of my favourite cow photos ever):
cows: anxious and fussy but much happier when able to do self-care. SOUNDS FAMILIAR TO ME
THE POOR BABY GOT BRUSHED AWAY BY IT AT THE BEGINNING I LOVE COWS
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